Relationships: Notes From a Gottman Therapist

The Path to Infidelity: What Gottman Research Tells Us

 Part 2 of a series on Dr. John Gottman’s research on Trust and Infidelity In my last blog, “Precursors to Infidelity: The Six Warning Signs”, I reviewed findings from Dr. John Gottman’s five studies on trust and Infidelity, summarized in “Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples”, and his follow-up book, “What…

Managing Resentments and Grudges: Opportunities for Intimacy-Really!

Resentments and grudges can hurt relationships, but… We have learned a lot about relationship stability from Drs. John & Julie Gottman’s work.  What’s interesting about resentments is that we can think about them as falling in three different categories, with thoughts that might go something like this: 1) “On second…

Recovering Couples: How to Develop a Deeper Friendship with Your Partner

(Originally published in New Times: For Addiction Recovery, July/August, 2007) Friendship is essential in developing and maintaining an intimate relationship. Based on John Gottman’s ground breaking research involving 3,000 couples over 30 years on what makes relationships successful, we now know what it takes to foster friendship in an intimate…