Revisiting Past Relationship Articles
I recently was updating my computer and came across some articles I have written or contributed to previously. In 2013 I was asked by the Gottman Institute to write a …
Tag: Gottman research
If You Have the Same Argument Over and Over In Your Relationship, Here is How to Break the Cycle
My boyfriend and I rarely fight — and when we do, it seems to always come back to the same issue. I’m a more social person than he is. I …
How to Get Your Needs Met in a Relationship
We have learned from the Gottman research what works in relationships. Relationship happiness occurs when couples establish a close friendship on a day-by-day basis. Increased intimacy sets the stage for …
Don’t Just Do Something, Stand There!
We have learned from research that relationships with high levels of trust and feelings of closeness have a common characteristic. These patterns are highly predictable of positive relationships.
Relationship Busters We Don’t Talk Enough About: Part 2 of 3
Gottman is well known for his divorce prediction research. In this 2nd of 3 articles I discuss an overlooked/misunderstood predictor: Accepting Influence
One of the Most Important and Overlooked Relationship Builders
What the Research Shows Us The research is pretty clear, there are innate needs that we are hardwired for – literally. Affective neuroscience informs us that we have neural circuits …
Love Lab Goes Live: An Interview with Carrie Cole, Gottman Director of Research
The original Gottman Love Lab first opened in 1986 at the University of Washington. The new Love Lab recently opened, integrating state of the art science and mathematical models to …
Precursors to Infidelity: The Six Warning Signs
Dr. John Gottman’s research provides key insights in understanding trust and in recognizing the signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a path toward betrayal. It won’t be a surprise to …
The Path to Infidelity: What Gottman Research Tells Us
Part 2 of a series on Dr. John Gottman’s research on Trust and Infidelity In my last blog, “Precursors to Infidelity: The Six Warning Signs”, I reviewed findings from Dr. …
How to Strengthen Your Relationship? Think More Like a Cow
What We Can Learn From Cows Who would have thought that when it comes to qualities, it turns out that cows have a number of innate behaviors and social characteristics …