The Gottman Research has identified the high risk couples for divorce. There are three predictors that tend to get overlooked when reviewing the Gottman research. I review them in this series of three articles
It can happen in a moment. We are having a conversation and suddenly, or not so suddenly, bamm, our partner says something that lights up our internal fuse. It’s amazing how efficient our brains are in mobilizing a fight or flight response…
As the old joke goes, “I know I have been talking a lot about myself and all my accomplishments, there were quite a few, of course. But I really should stop talking about myself. So, what do you think about me?”
Let’s imagine that on reflection you notice that your reactions tend to be defensive and that if you are honest with yourself blame is a familiar tactic. There are any number of reasons or combination of reasons that blame and accusation come easily.